“Never get angry again” by David J. Lieberman

The author 🖋

Dr. David J. Lieberman is a renowned psychotherapist and multiple-time NYT bestselling author who’s a frequent guest expert on national media outlets such as The Today Show and The View.

He holds a Ph.D. in psychology, has trained personnel in every branch of the U.S. military, the FBI, the CIA and the NSA and is the maker of an instructional video that’s mandatory for psychological operations graduates.

Key takeaways 🎓

1. The root cause of getting angry

Anger is often a sign of something else making us feel bad inside.

It usually stems from deeper issues (fear, insecurity, low self-esteem and a myriad of other issues).

Instead of just getting mad, we should work on identifying and addressing what's really making us upset.

2. Developing emotional control

Staying calm is like learning any new skill - it takes practice.

Lieberman advises practicing simple techniques such as taking deep breaths or counting to ten when we start getting upset.

Regular practice creates new neural pathways in the brain that favor rational thinking over impulsive reactions and makes remaining calm a more natural response, even in stressful situations.

3. Reframing your perspective

Changing the way we view things helps maintain a more balanced emotional state.

Instead of thinking that someone is out to get us, we should also consider that maybe they had a really bad day or just made a mistake and didn’t mean to upset us.

By simply choosing to think more kindly, positively or even just neutrally, we can significantly reduce our anger.

Closing thoughts 🧠

The book teaches a holistic, scientific approach to managing and preventing anger.

Dr. Lieberman provides a blend of psychological insights and practical advice to help us lead calmer, more peaceful lives.